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Getting Ready for the First Day

A calm first day starts with a little preparation. Here is a simple plan for the week before, the night before and the morning itself — plus a packing list and ways to talk about big feelings.

A few minutes a day for one week

Your first-day timeline

  1. The week before

    • Visit the school or classroom if you can, or walk or drive past it together. Point out the door, the playground and where you’ll say goodbye.
    • Look at photos of the school, the teacher or the classroom if the school shares them. Ask whether your child can meet the teacher before the first day.
    • Read a book about starting school, or make up a story where a favorite toy goes to Pre-K.
    • Start moving bedtime and wake-up time toward the school schedule, about 10–15 minutes a day.
    • Practice the “school jobs” your child will do: opening a lunch box, hanging up a coat, using a public bathroom, washing hands.
    • Play “school” at home: take turns being the teacher, sit for a story, sing a clean-up song.

  2. The night before

    • Pack the bag together and let your child choose one small thing to add, if the school allows a comfort item.
    • Lay out clothes — ideally ones they can manage on their own, with easy shoes.
    • Talk through tomorrow using the same simple words: “We’ll eat breakfast, drive to school, hug goodbye, and I’ll pick you up after snack.”
    • Keep the evening quiet and familiar. Stick to the usual bedtime routine and allow extra cuddle time.
    • Protect hair for the morning (a satin bonnet or scarf) so styling is quick.

  3. The first morning

    • Wake up with enough time that no one has to rush. Leave extra time for last-minute feelings.
    • Offer a familiar breakfast. Nervous tummies may eat less — that is okay.
    • Use your morning routine chart so your child can see what comes next.
    • Arrive a few minutes early, but not so early that waiting feels long.
    • Keep goodbyes warm, short and the same every time. Then leave — and let the teacher help.

First-day packing checklist

Always check your school’s own list first — rules about toys, food and labels differ. Label everything with your child’s name.

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Practicing drop-off

Short, playful practice helps children learn that goodbyes are followed by hellos.

5–15 minutesSeparation

Little goodbyes

You’ll need

  • A trusted relative, friend or babysitter

How to play

  1. Leave your child with someone they know for a short time.
  2. Use your goodbye ritual (see below) every time.
  3. Come back when you said you would, and say “I came back!”
  4. Slowly make the time apart a little longer.

Make it easier: Stay in the next room for the first few tries so your child can check on you.

Add a challenge: Practice at a new place, such as a library story time.

10 minutesPretend play

Toy drop-off

You’ll need

  • Stuffed animals or dolls
  • A box or pillow “school”

How to play

  1. Let your child be the grown-up who takes a toy to school.
  2. Act out the goodbye: hug, wave, “I’ll be back after snack.”
  3. Pretend the toy feels nervous. Ask, “What could help Teddy?”
  4. Act out pick-up time and celebrate the return.

Things you might say

  • “How is Teddy feeling?”
  • “What will Teddy do at school today?”

Simple goodbye phrases

Pick one ritual and use it every day. A predictable goodbye is easier than a long one. Try not to sneak away — a clear goodbye builds trust.

Grown-up says

  • “I love you. I’ll pick you up after snack time.”
  • “Hug, kiss, high five — see you soon!”
  • “Your teacher will take care of you. I always come back.”
  • “You can feel sad and still be safe here.”

Child can say, sign or show

  • “Bye! See you later!”
  • “Hug, please.”
  • “I miss you.”
  • “Wave from the window?”

Talking about first-day feelings

Children may feel excited, nervous, shy or all three. Every feeling is welcome.

Name it

“It looks like your tummy feels wobbly. Lots of kids feel nervous on a new day.” Naming a feeling helps children make sense of it.

Make it concrete

Share what will happen in order, and when you will come back, using daily events (“after lunch”) rather than clock times.

Draw it

Invite your child to draw how they feel or use the “My Feelings” printable. Some children would rather show than say.

Ask gentle questions after

Try “What did you play?” or “Who did you sit near at snack?” instead of “How was school?” — and give them time to answer, or no answer at all.

Expect some tears

Crying at drop-off is common and usually eases once the day begins. If big worries continue for weeks, talk with the teacher together.

Look after yourself too

It is normal for grown-ups to feel emotional. A calm, confident goodbye helps — and it is okay to cry in the car afterward.

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